Wednesday, October 13, 2010

Just breathe (WMW)

I try not to complain too much about my job because
a) I'm grateful to just have a job
b) It was my decision to quit my full time job after Jack was born and waitress part time
c.) It could be a lot worse

The truth is that this job is way less stressful than my last, mostly because I don't have to take my work home with me. That said working with the general public can tough-check out this post for ways to make your servers life easier- and there are plenty of days that I wish I could go could go all Steven Slater on some of my tables. BlogBooster-The most productive way for mobile blogging. BlogBooster is a multi-service blog editor for iPhone, Android, WebOs and your desktopBut I can't because we need to put food on the table and buy things so I have to find other ways to de-stess after a tough day.
So when Julia over at Work, Wife, Mom, Life asked, "When Work seems overwhelming I..."
I really stopped to think about how I cope with those days when you just want to scream at everyone in sight.

Of course in doing this I realized that my first instincts when stressed are to indulge in things that are unhealthy and counter productive. I use to be a smoker and that was the first thing I did when I was stressed. Though I am proud to say that I quit 3 years ago, I will admit that every now and again if I'm having a bad night-and there is a co-worker who will enable me- that I will sneak a puff or 2. I'm not proud of that but it takes the edge off a bad day and I don't do it often. Plus half the time I do it, I end up not enjoying it as much as I thought I would and I remember why I quit in the first place.
And then there are the other vices I turn to sometimes, like a glass of wine or food. Again not the best thing to turn to when stressed, but sometimes that glass of Menage A Trois is worth it after a hard days work.

But while all these things help a little, the thing that helps me the most during a stressful day is my husband. Not to get all cheesy, but he is really good at helping me come down from a high strung, overwhelming day. I think it is partially because he knows the business-he also works in the hospitality industry-and he understands what I deal with. He listens to me when I tell him stories of how rude and crazy some people are. He tells me his. He doesn't tune me out or belittle my feelings. And that helps because sometimes all you need at the end of a hard day is a sympathetic ear.

And a back rub doesn't hurt either.

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Katie said...

You are a saint for waiting tables. I waited tables for 3 years back in college, and I hated it with every cell in my body. I don't like my current job, but I'd rather work full time here than wait tables part time, so you have my full sympathy and admiration! I'm glad your husband is able to understand you, sometimes the thing we need most is just someone to listen and let us vent!

R. Molder said...

Awww, it is so sweet that you mention your husband as your stress relief! It's great to have such an awesome support at home!!! I'll check out your give away next.

Susan DiMickele said...

Very sweet about you and the hubby. I really couldn't live w/o mine either, although I rarely admit it (and I'm not allowed to blog about him b/c he gets all embarassed)! Thx for visiting today and happy WMW!

Julia Ladewski said...

i served during the summers in college and i always respect my servers now. it's a tough job!!

hubbies do make it better!! totally. like a text or voicemail on a long day.... :)